When parents ask me about Be Your Own Hero, they don't always start with "self-defense." They start with what actually keeps them up at night. Let me walk you through the parent concerns I hear most often, and how we address each one.

Most self-defense programs get it wrong for women. In our Self-Defense Book Club discussion of Meditations on Violence by Rory Miller, we explore the frameworks that actually change how you think about defense, permission, and freedom.

Most self-defense advice starts from the wrong assumption — that the goal is fearlessness, and that freezing means failure. Here are the six myths that quietly stop women from ever starting, and the truth about your nervous system underneath each one.